Experiencing mixed feelings about my impending return to the workforce, having taken the full year off to spend with our daughter…
Intrigue surrounding how I’ll find stepping back into a fast-paced world of commuting and out of the Baby Bubble (even though I love being in it).
A cold, dark pit in my stomach at the thought of missing out being witness to her new discoveries.
Excitement to be able to be part of something “grown-up” and then immediate guilt for having to focus on anything other than my baby girl.
I had read somewhere once that if you’re 80% sure that you think you might like to go back to work, to just go for it as there’s never right time to return. Just like there’s never a right time to have a baby in the first place. It happens; you make it work.
Just like I buy nice gym clothes to lure me into working out, I’m beginning to amass pretty stationary so that I am even more incentivised to work just so I can make use of them.
Consider – “Why Are You Doing This?”
As a woman and a mother, I want to be a strong, female role model for my daughter and to me, that means being the best version of myself for my family. I’m confident in myself as a Mother, now to regain my confidence as an individual.
Right now, I have the chance to have “Me” time back and to develop myself personally (my company are super big on this). Also y’know, money to buy her ridiculously fabulous outfits and chic toys.
Whatever your reasons, let it be for the greater good of your family.
I’ve found listing out my fears and then telling myself to Be Rational has helped me to stay focused. It’s something that we practiced in the Natal Hypnotherapy classes to dispel any Birthing fears the group had.
If you’re thinking about going back to work, I hope that this exercise will help you too.
Here are some of mine:
I don’t want someone else raising her
There’s an amazing bond, especially between mother and child, this won’t be misplaced just because you have someone else take care of them. If anything, you’ll be giving your little one an opportunity to become more independent and think about it – parents don’t see sending their kids to school everyday as “someone else raising them”.
I’m having to very carefully consider the childcare options at the moment as this will influence her development, but ultimately we as parents will be the ones responsible for raising her with solid values.
Worried I’ll be tired all of the time
Well, you’ve probably just spent the best part of a year (and more actually if you count the insomnia and discomfort of the 3rd Trimester) having subpar sleep so if anything, you might be better rested by dozing on your commute haha.
Housework?! Cooking?! How? When? HOW???
I’ve been told by many people that having a cleaner is a worthwhile expense for a busy family – if this is something that you can budget for then why the heck not.
Otherwise, it’s down to sharing the housework with your partner. Ask for help. But also reset your expectations – the place doesn’t need to be sterile but it does need to be safe for the family.
When it comes to getting food on the table after a day at work – this is one of my husband’s biggest fears. I think we’ll try a combination of bulk cooking at the weekends combined with leaning heavily on Jamie’s 15 Minute Meals…
I don’t want to miss out on anything
This one I’m struggling with. It’s the sacrifice that a working parent has to make as part of being away from your child. If you have a good person looking after your little one though, they should be keeping you in the loop (though maybe have your phone on silent).
I’m fortunate enough to be part of a supportive company who are allowing me to have time to work from home and condensing my week as I make the transition to being a Working Mum – so thankfully I’m not in a cold turkey position! I’m fairly sure the separation is usually harder on the Mum than the Child at this age…
And I must remember that the time you get to spend with your family should be time you spend with your family – not with your focus half on your emails/the TV etc.
So whilst you might not be around your little one as much as before – the very least you can offer is your undivided attention when you are off duty.
We finally got around to hanging some photos on the walls, I wanted to put these in a prominent place in our home as a reminder to my husband and I of the whole reason why we make any decisions in life.
Please share your experience in the comments – sharing is caring! Kx