7 Differences between my First and Second Pregnancies

Let’s take a look back on the past 38 weeks compared to my first pregnancy.

1. Energy Levels

FIRST PREGNANCY – Growing life inside you really takes it out of a girl, so I was lucky to have worked with a company at the time who allowed two-hour lunch breaks and gave me permission to work from home a couple of days a week as I got bigger. I remember sitting on the sofa watching TV with a PB&J on toast at 2am from Third Trimester insomnia.

SECOND PREGNANCY – Growing life inside you when you are working, mothering, wife-ing and home-making makes me feel like fricking Wonder Woman. I am capable of ANYTHING (but I need to be tucked up in bed by 20:30 or I’m more the Incredible Sulk). Since the Third Trimester insomnia hit me, I’ve just taken to trying to Yoga breathe my way back to chill, or failing that making To-Do Lists and online shopping. But seriously though, it has been more tiring this time around so I’m even luckier to work for a company who have allowed me to work from home since January :D.

Having said that, time has gone by a lot faster so I haven’t felt like I’ve had much time to wallow in the limited energy levels.

2. Marvel at the Bump difference

FIRST PREGNANCY – Adelyn was a breach baby from like Week 28, wouldn’t turn no matter how many inversions I did or even after attempting an ECV (just, no never again). Her head was permanently wodged beneath my right rib – so my Bump was a bit flat and high up for the whole time.

SECOND PREGNANCY – Baby 2.0 has been nicely head down for a while now and I’ve found that I can actually still bend down to e.g. do my shoes. The bump has been way more pronounced and poked out early – all of which the Midwives tell me is because “everything’s looser this time round”. 😳 This time round the Bump has been relatively low (and dare I say comfy?), and yet compact. In my mind I like to think that you wouldn’t be able to tell I was pregnant from behind.

However – I’ve been feeling a lot more aches and heaviness in the pelvic area this time round due to her head knocking around down there, yet none of the ankle bloating I had with Adelyn.

3. My Husband’s Attention

FIRST PREGNANCY – he read a bunch of books and attended the Natal Hypno sessions with me. Wouldn’t let me lift a thing if he could help it, I remember him helping me out of the car, carrying bags and opening doors for me. Aww. He even insisted on taking weekly photos to document the Bump growth.

SECOND PREGNANCY – Literally forced refresher Natal Hypno notes into his hands and begged him “PLEASE STOP PLAYING DESTINY 2 TILL 2AM AND PREPARE FOR THIS BIRTH”. Take my own bump selfies (when I remember) and carry my own damn bags, with a lot of huffing and muttering.

4. Spend Less, Same Result

FIRST PREGNANCY – take the whole pregnancy test thing – I was in NYC for work and bought the most expensive Digital Blue Test I could find.

SECOND PREGNANCY – A pregnancy test is a pregnancy test OK? You’ll only get accurate results from taking it when your period is due and not the day after you made with the love. For our Second, I was at home and used a remarkably low-key Boots own brand test.

Completely different Positive test experiences, same excited, mildly shell-shocked thrill.

5. Knowing Your Own Limits

FIRST PREGNANCY – was too scared to bend over to put shoes on in case of squishing the unborn. Had a Personal Trainer at the gym to walk me through “safe” workouts to help me stay strong.

SECOND PREGNANCY – I’m coming up to 38 weeks now and in the past couple of weeks I’ve been carrying rails down from the top floor to the garage, breaking up tree branches to put into the Garden Waste bin, lugging kilos of laundry up to the top floor to dry and carrying Coco across particularly precarious paving on our walks. My “alarm” that I’ve overdone something and need to chill the frick out has been a muscle pain in my left side.

6. Different Anxieties

FIRST PREGNANCY – With everything new and never-before-experienced, it was easy to fret about a lot of things. Is her heartbeat normal? Is she growing ok? Am I putting on too much weight? Am I overdoing things? Does the alcohol in anti-bacterial gel harm the unborn baby? Don’t even get me started on parabens, nail varnishes and lipstick.

Also around the birth itself – first we were prepared for natural birth, then we had to have a C-Section because of the Breachness.

SECOND PREGNANCY – Well my first pregnancy was a lesson in itself about the amount of chemicals we apply on ourselves (creams, make-up, soaps) and ingest so I kind of continued along the more conscious route meaning everything I’ve been using has been pretty low in weird unpronounceable chemicals. And it’s amazing what pretty nails can do for a knackered Mother who’s battled with her toddler over dinner time for the umpteenth time.

This time we’re determined to have a natural birth (even with that awful midwife I keep getting who always likes to bring up C-Section scar rupturing) – so it’s basically like being a first time mum as I’ve not experience labour before…but I’m kind of excited for it 🙂

7. Making Better Purchases (to suit our needs)

FIRST PREGNANCY – without the personal experience, we found that we relied on anecdotes from other parents we knew and/or what we were reading in books and online for advice on Prams, Cots, Carriers, Newborn Toys and Muslin material (?!!)

SECOND PREGNANCY –  this time we get to feel quite jammy because we can repurpose everything from Adelyn’s early years and only buy things that we know we would’ve found so useful the first time around. E.g. a side-Cot for night feedings and kimono-styled onesies so you don’t have to awkwardly pull clothes over the tiny being’s head at 2am.

One thing hasn’t changed though, the wonderment and gratitude of having been able to have another tiny kicky little being growing inside. Truly heart-warming whenever Adelyn mentions her little sister or comes to give the bump a kiss and a cuddle. Just this morning when we were snuggled up in bed she was pointing to the cot saying “Little Sister coming soon?”

Bring on the new addition to the growing Girl Gang!

Kx